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The Serenity Project
Sometimes being a mother feels like being in some sort of recovery program.  ”It’s been two days since I last lost my temper.” or “It’s been 8 days since I last took my children to the park”, or even worse “It’s been ___ days since my children last ate a leafy green vegetable.”  People will say this is normal motherly guilt (perhaps exacerbated a bit by my Italian lineage), and they may be right.  But the fact remains that parenting, while an amazing yet difficult experience, should carry some sort of warning label:  Danger:  Excessive guilt likely due to not living up to atmospheric expectations. We have good days and bad days in our household, which can be summed up as follows: Good days: A mother with infinite patience The girls playing like birds of a feather The rooms echoing with laughter throughout the day The other days: A mother who is infinitely tired Bickering Toys strewn in every single room of the house Since this is real life, and not a made for t.v. movie, every day falls somewhere on the spectrum between those two ranges. The biggest problem I find, however, is that of removing myself out of a funk after I’m sunk deep inside. If I’ve lost my temper I will succumb to guilty feelings, and if I feel overwhelmed it will manifest as some sort of “It’s Not Fair” pity party. Of course, it’s almost always easier to sulk than to do something constructive about whatever ails your mind. Indeed, I find sulking to be one of the most indulgent things a person can do in this regard, though it is unquestionably destructive not only to self but also to all the relationships surrounding you.  So I decided to try to find a way out of... Continue Reading
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